- Published: January 2013
- ISBN-10: 0307352153
- EP Rating: 3 out of 5 (Ok, read when you have time)
EP Main Takeaway: Introverts are sensitivity to stimulus. Understand where you are on the introversion-extroversion spectrum and select jobs, activities, and environments that are a good fit for you.
Introverts are better at working with proactive people. Extroverts better at working with passive people.
It is better to work alone than in a committee when working on creative activities.
Open floor plans and brainstorming sessions aren't effective because people don't have privacy to do their best work. Online collaboration works better because you think on your own and then share info.
Brainstorming doesn't work because:
- social judgment creates stress and stops people from sharing their ideas
- only one person can share at a time
- people can loaf because it's a group
Peers influence how we perceive reality - need to carve time for both collaboration and quiet reflection
Highly reactive babies become introverts because they are sensitive to stimulus. Introvertedness is part genetic. Our amygdala (emotional) takes over if we don't have resources to access our prefrontal cortex (logical). Don't call baby shy or any other label that has negative connotations. Arrange for your child to meet new people and ease the introduction. Ask children specific questions about school - instead of "Did you have fun? or "Was school interesting?", ask "What did you do in math class?"
Find the sweet spot for your preferred quantity of stimulation - allows you to be most productive.
Introverts are more conscientious and sensitive to people's feelings; can empathize
Introverts are wired to inspect and extroverts are wired to respond. Extroverts are sensitive to rewards and will strive hard to knock down obstacles in the path of their goals. Introverts' persistence will also allow them to hit their goals
Identify your core project, by paying attention to
- work you gravitate towards
- what you envy
- what you wanted to do as a child
You can fake extroversion but will leak out. Don't act out of character for too long or else you risk burning out.
Venting doesn't soothe anger, it fuels it. Is the thing making you angry worth it? Reframe interpretations away from personal attacks, focus on the issue.
Ask questions and tune into what people care about.
Robert Chen is the founder of Embrace Possibility and author of The Dreams to Reality Fieldbook. He helps people who feel stuck move forward by guiding them to see other possibilities for their lives. He specializes in working with high performers get to the next level. If you're going through a tough time right now, check out Robert's article on How to Feel Better Right Away and if you're having trouble getting what you want out of life, check out How to Always Achieve Your Goals.