No problem. Let me know how it goes.

Hi Robert, Thanks been busy for the last week, I appreciate your words of wisdom and will implement some of them for better improvement.

I thought of one more thing that you can try immediately on your own. You can act as if you already possess the quality that you want. What would your world be like if you could remember the things you wanted to remember? What feelings would you have? How would the movie play out differently than it has been playing?

Hi Abhijit,

Have you modeled people who were great at remember things? How do they process information? Perhaps you are focusing on something different which makes it more difficult to retain or recall information? I would start with really being curious about how people who never forget do what they do. I have a feeling it is a combination of focus, instilling meaning and good old fashion listening and curiosity. I’ve never tried medication so I can’t give an opinion on that. Meditation has helped me to focus and be more self aware especially when my mind wants to wanders.

Sure Will Keep trying for the best, Robert. I have forgetfulness or absent mindedness, which hinders my productivity, I have tried reminders, planners, but not able to get the best out of me, I have to reach 10 new clients through cold calling and my forgetful nature always affects me while reaching out, and I easily lose focus…I have read your article on meditation and have tried it but not able to practice it regularly, and even when I do meditate, there a small bursts of -ve thoughts from past or what may happen in future which breaks my concentration.. Do you think I am really troubled and need some medication instead of meditation? Cheers

Good luck Abhijit! Keep up the positive attitude and I know you’ll be able to make it. Modeling success is the way to go and the key point in modeling is to act on it. Just knowing what to do is not enough.

Regards
Abhijit

Your situation is very common. People naturally become discouraged when faced with repeated “failures” to achieve what they want. There are a few things to think about to help you in this situation:

1. The “failure” is just feedback that your actions need to be adjusted
2. You are not your behavior or your outcome. Your sense of self-worth and confidence did not change just because other people did not recognize it or you did not achieve your goal. Refer to point 1.
3. If you think you have fallen in a never ending abyss, then that is how you will feel. There is really no basis for you to think that way. The fact is that you are having trouble landing a job that you want and performing badly at a job you currently have. Thats it. You are not in any downward spiral. What you need to focus on is the solution. How are you going to perform better at your job. Did you talk with successful sales people (at your company and outside your company) and ask how they do it? Are you doing what they do? Also, what is the job you want? Why do you want it?

The questions can go on and on but the important thing is to ask the right ones where you are expending your energy on moving forward rather than looking backward.

Just start thinking positively right now and if you don’t know how, act confident physically and the feelings will follow. Let me know how it goes.

Hi Shawn, that’s interesting. Can you elaborate on what you mean by a less standard version? Do you use another word altogether?