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		<title>Quiet by Susan Cain</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Sep 2017 21:21:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>(click on book cover for more details)   Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain Published: January 2013 ISBN-10: 0307352153 EP Rating: 3 out of 5 (Ok, read when you have time)   EP Main Takeaway: Introverts are sensitivity to stimulus. Understand where you are on  [...]</p>
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</div><div class="fusion-clearfix"></div></div></div><div class="fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_3_4 3_4 fusion-three-fourth fusion-column-last" style="--awb-bg-size:cover;width:75%;width:calc(75% - ( ( 4% ) * 0.75 ) );"><div class="fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy"><div class="fusion-text fusion-text-2"><h2 style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307352153/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=recommended-rc-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=0307352153&amp;linkId=2b062b2ecc3e7df69adc07307492f9a3"><strong>Quiet: </strong><span id="productTitle" class="a-size-large">The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking </span>by Susan Cain</a></h2>
<ul>
<li><strong>Published</strong>: January 2013</li>
<li><b>ISBN-10:</b> 0307352153</li>
<li><b>EP Rating</b>: 3 out of 5 (Ok, read when you have time)</li>
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</div><div class="fusion-sep-clear"></div><div class="fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep" style="margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-bottom:18px;width:100%;"><div class="fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-dotted" style="--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;"></div></div><div class="fusion-sep-clear"></div><div class="fusion-text fusion-text-3"><p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>EP Main Takeaway</strong></span>: Introverts are sensitivity to stimulus. Understand where you are on the introversion-extroversion spectrum and select jobs, activities, and environments that are a good fit for you.</p>
</div><div class="fusion-clearfix"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-2 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling" style="--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;" ><div class="fusion-builder-row fusion-row"><div class="fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-one-full fusion-column-first fusion-column-last" style="--awb-bg-size:cover;"><div class="fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy"><div class="fusion-sep-clear"></div><div class="fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep" style="margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;width:100%;"><div class="fusion-separator-border sep-single sep-solid" style="--awb-height:20px;--awb-amount:20px;border-color:#e0dede;border-top-width:1px;"></div></div><div class="fusion-sep-clear"></div><div class="fusion-title title fusion-title-1 fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-one" style="--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;"><h1 class="fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated" style="margin:0;--fontSize:34;line-height:1.4;">Our notes:</h1><span class="awb-title-spacer"></span><div class="title-sep-container"><div class="title-sep sep-double sep-solid" style="border-color:#e0dede;"></div></div></div><div class="fusion-text fusion-text-4"><p>Introverts are better at working with proactive people. Extroverts better at working with passive people.</p>
<p>It is better to work alone than in a committee when working on creative activities.</p>
<p>Open floor plans and brainstorming sessions aren't effective because people don't have privacy to do their best work. Online collaboration works better because you think on your own and then share info.</p>
<p>Brainstorming doesn't work because:</p>
<ul>
<li>social judgment creates stress and stops people from sharing their ideas</li>
<li>only one person can share at a time</li>
<li>people can loaf because it's a group</li>
</ul>
<p>Peers influence how we perceive reality - need to carve time for both collaboration and quiet reflection</p>
<p>Highly reactive babies become introverts because they are sensitive to stimulus. Introvertedness is part genetic.  Our amygdala (emotional) takes over if we don't have resources to access our prefrontal cortex (logical). Don't call baby shy or any other label that has negative connotations. Arrange for your child to meet new people and ease the introduction. Ask children specific questions about school - instead of "Did you have fun? or "Was school interesting?", ask "What did you do in math class?"</p>
<p>Find the sweet spot for your preferred quantity of stimulation - allows you to be most productive.</p>
<p>Introverts are more conscientious and sensitive to people's feelings; can empathize</p>
<p>Introverts are wired to inspect and extroverts are wired to respond. Extroverts are sensitive to rewards and will strive hard to knock down obstacles in the path of their goals. Introverts' persistence will also allow them to hit their goals</p>
<p>Identify your core project, by paying attention to</p>
<ul>
<li><a href="http://www.robertchen.com/remind-yourself-of-your-why/">work you gravitate towards</a></li>
<li>what you envy</li>
<li>what you wanted to do as a child</li>
</ul>
<p>You can fake extroversion but will leak out. Don't act out of character for too long or else you risk burning out.</p>
<p>Venting doesn't soothe anger, it fuels it. Is the thing making you angry worth it? Reframe interpretations away from personal attacks, focus on the issue.</p>
<p>Ask questions and tune into what people care about.</p>
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