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		<title>How to Sell with Integrity &#8211; Lesson 1 &#8211; The First Thing to Think About</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Robert Chen]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Mar 2012 09:33:10 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>In my previous article, I proclaimed that the one key skill for success is the ability to sell. If you believe selling is sleazy, please click here and read this article before reading on. For those who truly believe salespeople can have integrity and still be great and want to start learning how to sell effectively,  [...]</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/how-to-sell-lesson-1-the-first-thing/">How to Sell with Integrity &#8211; Lesson 1 &#8211; The First Thing to Think About</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com">Embrace Possibility</a>.</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="alignright wp-image-2476 size-medium" src="http://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/23023052/sell-with-integrity2-300x235.jpg" alt="Sell with Integrity" width="300" height="235" srcset="https://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/23023052/sell-with-integrity2-200x157.jpg 200w, https://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/23023052/sell-with-integrity2-300x235.jpg 300w, https://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/23023052/sell-with-integrity2-400x314.jpg 400w, https://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/23023052/sell-with-integrity2.jpg 500w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" />In my <a title="You are NOT Successful because …" href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/2012/02/22/why-you-are-not-successfu/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">previous article</a>, I proclaimed that the <strong>one key skill for success is the <em>ability to sell</em></strong>.</p>
<p>If you believe selling is sleazy, <a title="You are NOT Successful because …" href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/2012/02/22/why-you-are-not-successfu/">please click here and read this article before reading on.</a></p>
<p>For those who truly believe salespeople can have integrity and still be great and want to start learning how to sell effectively, here is Lesson 1.</p>
<p>Before you even open your mouth, the first thing you want to do is think about ...</p>
<p>... the product or service you want to sell. Right?</p>
<p>WRONG!</p>
<p>Most people want to start with their product or service because that is what they created, know or want to sell. Starting with what you want to sell is one of the main reasons most people have a hard time selling.</p>
<p>The first thing you want to think about ...</p>
<p>... is your <span style="text-decoration: underline;">customer</span>.</p>
<p>Who is it and what do they want? If you don't know, then your next step is to find out.</p>
<p>Only when you know what your customer wants, can you begin the selling process.</p>
<p>A great salesperson is not someone who can sell anything to anyone. A great salesperson is someone who finds out what the customer wants or needs, determines whether his product or service can fulfill that want or need and "sells" to the customer only if there is a match.</p>
<p>Your want to shift your mindset from one of a traditional salesperson to an assistant buyer. A great assistant buyer knows specifically what his client wants. That is the relationship you want.</p>
<p>So how do you find out what your potential customers want?</p>
<p>You just ask.</p>
<p>How do you get them to open up to you?</p>
<p>You need to do three things.</p>
<h3>Build Rapport</h3>
<p>Without trust, you won't get the answers to your key questions. Sometimes you may not even get the opportunity to ask any questions. If you want a refresher on building rapport, read <a title="How to Build Rapport with Anyone" href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/2012/03/06/how-to-build-rapport-with-anyone/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How to Build Rapport with Anyone</a>.</p>
<h3>Ask the Right Questions</h3>
<p>Once you have rapport, your purpose is to understand what your customer wants by asking the right questions.  So what are the right questions?</p>
<p>It depends.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>The questions you ask will be dependent on the answers you get</strong></span>. Before you close out this window thinking you've just wasted your time, let me make it up to you by telling you this:</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;">Different people have different motivations to buy.</p>
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<p>Three people can buy the same SUV for different reasons: One buys it because it is safe. The second because it is on sale. The third because it looks good.</p>
<p>It is important to recognize this concept before I introduce the series of questions that will drill down to a person's motivation.</p>
<p>Question 1 - What do you want?  <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>A new job.</em></span></p>
<p>Question 2 - Why do you want a new job? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>Because I want to to be challenged.</em></span></p>
<p>Question 3 - And why is being challenged important to you? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>Because I went to a good school and got a good education and I don't want it to go to waste. I want to be able to showcase my abilities.</em></span></p>
<p>Question 4 - And if you were able to showcase your abilities, how would that impact your life? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>I would be happier and I would be able to impress my boss and colleagues. I wouldn't have to feel so replaceable. </em></span></p>
<p>Question 5 - What does it feel like to be replaceable? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>I worry about everything I am doing at work and I am suspicious of other people trying to make me look bad. I get paranoid and sometimes I don't get a good night's rest if my boss says he wants to meet with me. I always expect the worse.</em></span></p>
<p>Question 6 - What do you think will happen if this continues to go on? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>I'll probably have a bad relationship with my coworkers and perform badly at work from all the worrying and lack of sleep.</em></span></p>
<p>Question 7 - And how would that make you feel? <em><span style="color: #0000ff;">Absolutely horrible. I want to be a nice person but it's hard to when you are competing with everyone. I don't want to get fired or a nervous breakdown. </span></em></p>
<p>Question 8 - And you're telling me that your current job is preventing you from living the life you want. What is it worth to you to fix this problem and live the life you want? <span style="color: #0000ff;"><em>A lot</em></span></p>
<p>Now we still haven't mentioned the product or service but if you had a product or service that could help this person, what do you think will happen?</p>
<h3>Listen Actively</h3>
<p>To effectively ask the right questions and to capture the person's motivations, fears and frustrations, you need to let your potential customer talk and you need to listen because everything that is being said will help you decide whether your product or service is right for your prospect. You actively listen by asking more questions to clarify exactly what your prospect wants.</p>
<h3>Practice, Practice, Practice</h3>
<p>Now that you have a good idea of how to ask your prospect what they want. Practice building rapport and drilling deep with your prospects. Really internalize the method of questioning and remember to listen attentively and be curious and sensitive about what your prospect is <span style="text-decoration: underline;">and</span> is not saying.</p>
<p>In <a title="How to Sell with Integrity – Lesson 2 – Matchmaker – Assist the Buyer" href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/assist-the-buyer-by-talking-about-benefit/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Lesson 2</a>, we'll cover what you're going to do with all this great information you got from applying Lesson 1.</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/how-to-sell-lesson-1-the-first-thing/">How to Sell with Integrity &#8211; Lesson 1 &#8211; The First Thing to Think About</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com">Embrace Possibility</a>.</p>
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		<title>The Three Reasons Why You Should Sleep More</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Robert Chen]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:31:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>If you are getting 7-9 hours of sleep every day, stop reading this article now. If you're still reading, then you probably want to sleep more but for some reason can't justify it. Here are the three reasons why you need to sleep more starting tonight: When You Don't Sleep, You're Wasting Your Life Many  [...]</p>
<p>The post <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/the-three-reasons-why-you-should-sleep-more/">The Three Reasons Why You Should Sleep More</a> appeared first on <a href="https://www.embracepossibility.com">Embrace Possibility</a>.</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/23022503/sleeping.jpg"></a><img decoding="async" class=" wp-image-146 alignright" title="Sleeping on the train" src="http://embpos.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/23022503/sleeping.jpg" alt="Yet Another Person Lacking Sleep" width="210" height="139" /></p>
<p>If you are getting 7-9 hours of sleep every day, stop reading this article now.</p>
<p>If you're still reading, then you probably want to sleep more but for some reason can't justify it.</p>
<p>Here are the three reasons why you need to sleep more starting tonight:</p>
<h3>When You Don't Sleep, You're Wasting Your Life</h3>
<p>Many people believe just the opposite: "<em>I need to savor every minute I have. I can sleep when I die.</em>" Sleep helps you to process your life experience and knowledge. If you don't sleep enough, you don't retain what you have gone through which means you have just wasted your day getting experience you're not going to recall. How can you savor life when you don't remember it?</p>
<h3>Cheaper Than A Gym Membership</h3>
<p>When you are sleep deprived, you interrupt the hormones that regulate your appetite which results in an increase in appetite. Similar to when you starve yourself, sleep deprivation causes your body to think you are in an emergency and it will begin to store fat to help you survive. If you are looking to control your weight, get more sleep.</p>
<h3>Stay in Control</h3>
<p>When I don't get enough sleep, I can't control myself. I am very irritable, I say things that I don't mean and I let my negative feelings (fear, anger, frustration, etc) get the better of me. Many of my good habits get broken and my bad habits creep back in. If you want self-control, 4 hours of sleep is not going to cut it.</p>
<p>There are many more reasons why you should get more sleep but these three alone provide a compelling argument to get to bed. If you think successful people don't need sleep, read my article on <a title="How to Sleep Your Way to Success" href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/2012/02/11/how-to-sleep-your-way-to-success/">How to Sleep Your Way to Success</a>.</p>
<p>Bonus:</p>
<p>In addition to sleeping more, it's helpful to know whether you're an early bird or a night owl to help you manage your energy. The infographic below might also help those of you failing to become morning people to feel less guilty.</p>
<p><a href="http://affordableschools.net/sleep-early-bird/"><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter" src="http://affordableschools.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/sleep.jpg" alt="Does the Early Bird Get the Worm?" width="500" border="0" /></a><br />
Source: <a href="http://affordableschools.net/">AffordableSchools.net</a></p>
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