Have things. Be with people.

It sounds obvious. But when I look closely at how I live—how I treat my stuff, how I interact with others—I realize how often I get it backwards. If I'm not careful, I find myself trying to be with things and have people.

This reversal has led to a lot of unnecessary struggle.

Have Things

Things—tech, money, clothes, books, furniture—are meant to serve us. They exist to be controlled and used to meet a need or solve a problem. When your phone connects you, your jacket keeps you warm, or your calendar brings order to your week, it's doing its job.

But problems creep in when we ask things to meet our being needs—like feeling worthy, seen, or "enough."

We start collecting, upgrading, chasing—bigger houses, better titles, sleeker devices. And for a moment, it works. We get a hit of validation. But it fades.

Why? Because possessions were never designed to meet those deeper needs.

Psychologists like Abraham Maslow made this clear. Material things can meet survival needs (food and safety). But what about growth needs like purpose, connection, and esteem? Those come from how we live and relate.

When we try to meet growth needs through material things, we stay stuck. We don’t grow. We just accumulate.

Reflection:
Is there anything I’ve been buying or chasing lately that I hope will make me feel “enough”?

Be With People

Then there’s how we treat people.

We know we can’t “have” someone. But it’s easy to act like we can.

We want people—children, friends, partners, colleagues—to behave a certain way. Meet our expectations. Agree with us. We judge, manage, even try to fix them. We may not call it control, but often, that’s exactly what it is.

But people aren’t problems to solve. They’re mysteries to walk alongside.

Being with someone means offering presence—not control. It means letting go of trying to change them and instead paying attention to who they already are.

You allow room for them to grow, just like you want room for your own growth.

You listen more. You judge less. You get curious. And in that space, something profound happens: you both develop. Together.

Reflection:
Where in my relationships am I trying to fix or control instead of just being present?

Real Connection Starts Here

This shift—from having to being with—takes practice. But it leads to deeper satisfaction and richer relationships.

Here’s a small challenge you can try this week:

Pick one possession to use more consciously (e.g., your phone—use it as a tool, not a distraction).
And choose one relationship where you’ll show up with curiosity, not control. No fixing—just presence.

And maybe keep this phrase in your back pocket when things get confusing:

Have things. Be with people.
The first helps you function. The second helps you flourish.

Photo by Muhamad Iqbal Akbar

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“Now the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness—it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness; and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.”

This resonated deeply with me because I began to see how much of my own stress and anxiety stemmed from attachment—whether it was to outcomes, ideas, or relationships. I started to notice how fleeting the “flash of pleasure” is—whether it’s landing a publisher for my book or completing a marathon—and how it’s often followed by that nagging fear of loss or the need to hold onto what I’ve achieved.

As I’ve been working to become more aware of these attachments in my daily life, I’m still learning just how difficult it can be to truly let go. The idea of living more freely and without clinging to outcomes is something I’m actively practicing, and it’s definitely a work in progress. I’ve found that it’s not about detaching from life or giving up on goals, but about learning to engage with things more mindfully, without being so tightly bound to them.

In this article, I want to share some of the signs that are helping me recognize attachment in my own life—whether it’s through constant worry, the need for control, or over-reliance on external validation. I’ve also included some practical steps I’m experimenting with to help let go, so we can all work toward finding more peace, freedom, and contentment in our journeys.

Here are 18 signs of attachment, ways to recognize them, real-life examples, and practical tips to help you loosen the grip.

1. You Constantly Worry About the Future

How to Recognize: You find yourself stuck in 'what if' scenarios and struggle to stay present because you're always thinking about what's coming next. You're stressing about things that haven't happened yet.

Attachment: You're attached to controlling or predicting the future.

Example: Before a big meeting, you’re overwhelmed with anxiety about how it will go, replaying possible outcomes in your head.

How to Let Go: Schedule “worry time” for 10 minutes, where you allow yourself to think about the future. Once time's up, bring your attention back to the present by focusing on your breathing or surroundings.

2. Change Makes You Uncomfortable

How to Recognize: You feel uneasy or anxious whenever something shifts in your routine, even if it's a small change. You display strong emotional responses when things don't stay the same and have difficulty accepting that things change, whether it's aging, relationships, or life circumstances.

Attachment: You're clinging to stability and fear the unknown. You’re attached to the idea that things should stay the same.

Example: A coworker moves a meeting or a friend cancels plans, and it leaves you feeling disoriented or upset for the rest of the day. You feel stressed about getting older or resist changes in your relationships, clinging to how things used to be.

How to Let Go: Ease yourself into change by making small adjustments in your routine, like taking a different route to work or trying new foods, to build your comfort with flexibility. Focus on how changes have brought growth in the past, and try to embrace the flow of life as it evolves.

3. You’re Obsessed with Controlling Everything

How to Recognize: You feel anxious when things don’t go exactly as planned, and you often try to dictate how others should behave or handle situations.

Attachment: You're attached to controlling people and outcomes.

Example: You get frustrated when coworkers don’t follow your detailed instructions and feel the need to step in and “fix” things.

How to Let Go: Focus on controlling your own actions and let go of trying to manage others. When you feel the urge to micromanage, remind yourself that others are capable and that it’s okay if things are done differently.

4. Your Mood Rides on Success or Failure

How to Recognize: You feel on top of the world when you succeed but devastated when things don’t go as planned. You feel like a failure when you don’t meet certain milestones or achievements.

Attachment: You're attaching your self-worth to external achievements. You’re attached to success as a measure of your self-worth.

Example: You feel euphoric when you get a promotion, but if you don’t, you spiral into self-doubt and question your abilities. You feel disappointed and unworthy after not hitting a financial or career goal, questioning your value.

How to Let Go: Acknowledge that neither success nor failure defines you. Focus on personal growth, effort, and resilience, knowing that failure is part of the process and doesn’t diminish your worth. Success is just one part of who you are.

5. You Rely Heavily of Others for Emotional Stability

How to Recognize: You feel anxious or insecure when someone you care about doesn’t give you the attention you expect.

Attachment: You’re attached to seeking validation and emotional support from others.

Example: You feel neglected when a friend doesn’t respond to your texts right away, leading to feelings of insecurity.

How to Let Go: Cultivate emotional independence by practicing self-soothing activities like meditation, journaling, or exercising. Understand that you can manage your emotions without relying on others for reassurance.

6. You Can’t Handle Different Opinions

How to Recognize: You get defensive or upset when someone challenges your beliefs or disagrees with you.

Attachment: You're attached to being right or having others agree with you.

Example: You find yourself arguing at social gatherings when people have differing political or personal views.

How to Let Go: Practice listening without reacting. Allow yourself to hear other perspectives without feeling the need to prove your point. Acknowledge that it’s okay for people to have different opinions.

7. You Seek Pleasure and Avoid Discomfort

How to Recognize: You constantly seek distractions or comfort when faced with stress, avoiding anything unpleasant. You feel empty or dissatisfied when pleasure or excitement fades.

Attachment: You’re attached to chasing pleasure and avoiding discomfort.

Example: After a long day, you automatically binge-watch TV or overeat to escape your stress, avoiding confronting your emotions.

How to Let Go: Start by acknowledging discomfort when it arises instead of immediately avoiding it. Try sitting with your feelings for a few minutes, allowing yourself to experience them without judgment. Tara Brach's RAIN method might help.

8. You Need Everything to Be Perfect

How to Recognize: You find yourself getting upset over small things or reacting impulsively when things don’t go as planned.

Attachment: You're attached to the idea that things should always go smoothly or to an ideal of perfection.

Example: You feel frustrated for hours after a small mistake at work or a minor inconvenience like a traffic delay. You redo a project multiple times because it doesn’t meet your exact vision, even though it’s already good enough.

How to Let Go: Pause and take a few deep breaths before reacting. Ask yourself if the situation is worth the emotional energy you're giving it, and practice letting go of the need for everything to go perfectly. Embrace imperfection as part of life. Focus on progress over perfection, and allow yourself to be satisfied with doing your best rather than chasing an unattainable ideal.

9. You’re Overly Attached to Material Things

How to Recognize: You feel anxious or distressed if something you own is damaged or lost. You compare yourself to others based on material success or possessions.

Attachment: You’re attached to possessions as a source of security or identity.

Example: When your phone gets a scratch, you feel a wave of frustration even though it still works perfectly. You feel down when your friend upgrades their car.

How to Let Go: Practice gratitude for the function of your belongings, not their appearance. Begin decluttering, starting with items you no longer need, to reduce your attachment to material things.

10. You Crave Validation from Others

How to Recognize: You often seek praise or approval from others and feel discouraged when you don’t receive it.

Attachment: You’re attached to external validation for your self-worth.

Example: You post on social media and feel down if you don’t get as many likes or comments as you expected.

How to Let Go: Build internal validation by reflecting on your own accomplishments and strengths. Celebrate small wins privately and remind yourself that others' approval doesn’t define your worth.

11. You Struggle with Letting Go of the Past

How to Recognize: You replay past events, wishing you could change the outcome or dwelling on mistakes. You tend to hold onto grudges for past wrongs.

Attachment: You’re attached to how things could have been.

Example: You keep thinking about an argument you had last week, obsessing over what you should have said differently.

How to Let Go: Accept that the past is unchangeable. Focus on what you’ve learned from the experience and how it can guide you moving forward.

12. You Define Yourself by Your Role or Title

How to Recognize: You feel lost or insecure when your role or job title changes, or you cling to the identity tied to your work.

Attachment: You’re attached to your identity as defined by external roles.

Example: You feel uncertain and uneasy after changing jobs or losing a professional title that defined you for years.

How to Let Go: Reflect on your values, passions, and relationships outside of work. Explore other aspects of your identity that aren’t tied to career or titles.

13. You Expect Relationships or Situations to Stay the Same

How to Recognize: You feel upset or insecure when people or situations in your life change.

Attachment: You’re attached to the idea that relationships or circumstances should remain constant.

Example: You feel disappointed when a close friend’s new job means they have less time to spend with you.

How to Let Go: Accept that all relationships evolve. Focus on nurturing your connection in its current form and appreciate the time you do have, rather than clinging to what it used to be.

14. You’re Always Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Recognize: You frequently feel inadequate or jealous when you compare your achievements or lifestyle to others.

Attachment: You’re attached to external measures of success.

Example: You feel envious when a colleague gets a promotion or a friend buys a new house, leading you to question your own progress.

How to Let Go: Shift your focus to your own journey. Celebrate others’ success without comparing it to your own, and remind yourself that everyone’s path is different.

15. You Take On Other People’s Problems

How to Recognize: You feel responsible for fixing others’ issues, even when they don’t ask for help.

Attachment: You’re attached to solving problems for others to feel needed.

Example: You feel drained and overwhelmed by trying to help a friend through their financial struggles, even when they haven’t asked for your intervention.

How to Let Go: Set boundaries and remind yourself that others are responsible for their own lives. Offer support, but don’t feel obligated to fix everything for them.

16. Uncertainty Makes You Anxious

How to Recognize: You feel uncomfortable or anxious when things don’t go according to plan or when the future is unclear.

Attachment: You’re attached to certainty and predictability.

Example: Last-minute changes to your schedule cause you to feel anxious and out of control.

How to Let Go: Practice embracing uncertainty by allowing parts of your day to remain unplanned. Try small spontaneous actions to build comfort with the unknown.

17. You Fear Leaving Your Comfort Zone

How to Recognize: You feel anxious or resistant when faced with new experiences or challenges outside of your familiar routine.

Attachment: You’re attached to the security of your comfort zone.

Example: You stay in a job you don’t like because the idea of starting something new feels overwhelming and risky.

How to Let Go: Start by taking small, manageable steps outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s learning a new skill or meeting new people, gradually challenge yourself to embrace the unfamiliar.

18. Your Identity Relies on External Success

How to Recognize: You feel like a failure when you don’t meet certain milestones or achievements, questioning your value. You judge other people based on their external success markers.

Attachment: You’re attached to success as a measure of your self-worth.

Example: You feel disappointed and unworthy after not hitting a financial or career goal, leading you to question your abilities.

How to Let Go: Acknowledge that neither success nor failure defines you. Focus on personal growth, effort, and resilience, knowing that failure is part of the process and doesn’t diminish your worth. Be aware when you judge others and see it as a projection of your own insecurity.

Letting Go of Attachment

Letting go starts with simply noticing where attachment shows up in your life. Pick one area—whether it's worrying about the future, craving approval, or needing to control everything—and start working on loosening your grip. It doesn’t have to be a big change. Try focusing on one small thing, like letting go of the need for everything to be perfect or practicing being okay with uncertainty.

Over time, as you take these small steps, you’ll start to feel more at ease, more present, and less weighed down by stress. It’s a gradual process, but even a little shift can make a big difference.

Try This:

• Pick one thing you tend to cling to, like perfectionism or worrying.
• Set a small, specific goal for this week—whether that’s allowing things to be “good enough” or giving yourself just 10 minutes to worry and then moving on.
• At the end of each day, check in with yourself. How did it feel to let go, even just a little?

The more you practice, the more you’ll find that letting go brings a sense of freedom and peace that’s hard to get when you’re holding on too tight.

What’s something you’re working on letting go of? I’d love to hear your thoughts—share in the comments below!

Photo by Jon Moore

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“Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you're keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls...are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”

Work is a rubber ball (a blue sky-bounce handball for your Brooklynites)!

This visual comes in handy whenever I'm deciding what to do with the never-ending list of things I can do at work or the different opportunities that come my way. These priorities are also in line with what researcher Karl Pillemer found after interviewing thousands of adults over the age of 70 on their advice to live a fulfilling life.

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So, how can you practically value your time over money?

Track your time

The first step to valuing your time is to track it. Use a time-tracking app or a simple spreadsheet to record how you spend your time. This will help you identify where your time is going and make more conscious decisions about how to spend your time. A few time wasters to flag when doing this exercise are any time you're spending to:

• Worry about what-ifs and what-if-nots
• Live and replay the past for whatever reason
• Fantasize about the future
• Take too long to decide on things that are reversible and matter very little (like what you're going to eat for lunch or whether or not you should buy those shoes on Amazon)

Set priorities and create a time budget

Once you have an idea of how you're spending your time, set priorities. What's most important to you? What do you value? Is it spending time with loved ones, pursuing a hobby, or advancing your career? Decide what matters most and make sure you're spending your time accordingly. One way to do that is to budget your time for the week to come and determine how much time you'll allocate to your key activities. This will help you make more intentional choices about how you spend your time. Take a moment and think about what you want your life to look like during your final years - who do you want around you? what would you like to accomplish? what physical condition would you like to be in? How you invest your time now will bring you either closer or further away from that vision.

Learn to say NO

Now that you have clarity about your vision of your life, you'll need to protect it by setting boundaries and saying no to things that don't align with your goals, value, and vision. Saying no can be difficult, but it's important if you want to value your time. If someone asks you to do something that doesn't align with your priorities, politely decline. This will free up your time for the things that matter most to you. A reframe that worked for me is to remember that saying yes to someone else is often saying no to myself.

Outsource and delegate

Often, when we track our time, we feel that everything we're doing right now is necessary to do. This may be true, but what isn't true is that you'll need to do everything yourself. Whenever possible, look for ways to outsource and delegate as many of your tasks as possible so you can free up your time (your most precious resource). Often, this will give others the opportunity to learn and grow and relieve you of tasks you may not want to do or do not fall into your area of expertise. You'll also be poised to take advantage of unexpected opportunities that may arise.

Avoid multitasking or being perfect

There is enough research now that shows multitasking is not only a less effective use of time but often a source of stress. You're better off focusing on one task at a time and giving it your full attention (assuming the task is an important one - I'm all for listening to a podcast while folding laundry). Another way to gain back time is to let go of perfectionism and the need to control every situation. Sometimes good enough is good enough. Don't spend excessive time on tasks that don't require it. This practice will help you feel more comfortable delegating to others.

Schedule downtime and take breaks

As part of your time budget, schedule downtime to recharge your batteries. Whether it's watching your favorite TV show or taking a walk outside, make sure you're taking breaks throughout the day to give your brain a rest. This is assuming that you're getting ample sleep. If you're not getting enough sleep, prioritize that in your time budget.

Practice mindfulness and be present

Mindfulness can help you stay focused on the present moment and become aware that each moment carries a choice around how you want to spend your time. By practicing mindfulness meditation, you can catch yourself slipping into poor uses of time and adjust. I found Dan Harris's book 10% Happier and Jon Kabat-Zinn's Mindfulness for Beginners a good place to start if you want to learn. Being present will allow you to fully enjoy the experience and value the time you're spending.

Invest your time like you invest any other important resource. Be intentional, deliberate, and rigorous. Your time is what makes up your life (4000 weeks), so spend it wisely. Click here for a visual representation of how much time you have left to invest (a la Tim Urban's post: The Tail End).

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If so, how do you know?

Don't worry if you're unsure - you're not alone. Happiness can be difficult to pin down. Are we happy or not? Is happiness an end state or an in-the-moment feeling? Is it both?

On top of all that, and more importantly, if we want to be happy, how do we get there?

Is it about smiling more? Making enough money to retire? Gaining recognition from our boss or peers? Trying one of these 10 ways to be happier when you're just fine?

No matter how happy you feel right now, you can be happier by recognizing and taking the three roads to happiness as described in Springboard: Launching Your Personal Search for Success. According to the University of Pennsylvania Professor Richard Shell, people use "happiness" to describe the following three things:

1. Momentary Happiness

These are the immediate moments of positive emotions - pleasure, satisfaction, contentment, or fun.

You can increase this type of happiness by slowing down and paying attention to your current experience - savoring the food you're eating, hugging a loved one, or feeling grateful for being able to read these words (which means you have good vision, and access to a computer, internet, and education). Try mindfulness meditation to help you pay more attention to the present moment. You might also consider managing your expectations, so you increase your chances of positive surprises and lower the chances of being disappointed.

What's one specific example of momentary happiness that you've experienced?

2. Overall Happiness

This is your overall judgment about how things have gone for you so far (past) or how things will go for you in the future. You're usually assessing your happiness over a block of time (how happy were you in your childhood, your last job, your first relationship, your college days, etc.)

You can increase this type of happiness by:

• Making health a key priority: start eating better, sleeping amply, and exercising regularly.
• Achieving some long-term goals: reflect on a goal you're proud of or pursue a goal you've wanted to achieve - write that novel, start that business, get that degree, live in that country, have those kids, or whatever else you might be putting off
• Investing in relationships: Spend time with people you enjoy and love and who love you. If needed, mend rifts with the important people in your life.
• Making enough money: Attain financial independence so you can do whatever you want whenever you want. Money alone may not lead to happiness, but financial resources are important for you to have autonomy over how you spend your time. Hopefully, you'll be spending that time with the people you love.

What's one specific example of overall happiness that you've experienced?

3. Deep Happiness

This is the feeling you get when you're experiencing flow, flourishing, or a sense of deep joy, connection, and meaning with those around you. Professor Shell draws parallels between deep happiness and the Hebrew word "simcha," defined by one of his interviewees as "the experience of the soul that comes when you are doing what you should be doing."

To increase deep happiness, find a way to serve a purpose higher than yourself. NYU's Jonathan Haidt suggests in The Happiness Hypothesis, that deep happiness comes from striving for "the right relationships between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself." You get to define what is right.

What's one specific example of deep happiness that you've experienced? (answering this question may give you more insight into your definition of meaningful)

Hopefully, by recognizing the different ways you can experience happiness, you can identify concrete ways to live a happier life. Take a moment this week and assess whether your daily activities are helping you be happy. Which type of happiness do you want to prioritize? What might be something on this list that you can try during the coming week?

Please share any practices or behaviors that have helped you increase your Momentary, Overall, or Deep happiness in the comments section below.

If you want to dive deeper and figure out how to define success for yourself, consider taking Professor Shell's Success course on Coursera (free to audit). You can find other free courses along with our recommended reading on happiness and well-being on our recommendations page.

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getting more sleep?

But of course, your hesitancy to start your day is likely more involved than getting more sleep. I've been re-reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (free MIT version) and the following passage struck me:

"In the morning, when you rise unwillingly, let this thought be present: I am rising to the work of a human being. Why then am I dissatisfied if I am going to do the things for which I exist and for which I was brought into this world?" 

As I thought about all the times I didn't want to get out of bed, I realized that it's usually because I had to do something that someone else wanted me to do, and not something that I wanted to or chose to do. Often, when I find myself feeling forced to do something, I try to remind myself that every action I take is one that I have chosen to take on. This recognition gives me the choice to either continue doing what I am doing or to make a change.

I've found this simple reframe as a quick way to compel myself to start the day I've chosen. Of course, there are times when I choose to sleep in as well.

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I found today's entry particularly apt for these trying times:

"We would think a man insane who, instead of covering his house with a roof and putting windows in his window frames, goes out in stormy weather, and scolds the wind, the rain, and the clouds. But we all do the same when we scold and blame the evil in other people instead of fighting the evil which exists in us. It is possible to get rid of the evil inside of us, as it is possible to make a roof and windows for our house. This is possible. But it is not possible for us to destroy evil in this world, just as we cannot order the weather to change and the clouds to disappear. If, instead of teaching others, we would educate and improve ourselves, then there would be less evil in this world, and all people would live better lives."

Although I might not be fighting evil in the literal sense, I do often catch myself "scolding the wind, the rain, and the clouds." This passage reminded me to accept the situation I'm in and focus on building "the roof and windows" instead of wasting my energy via self-pity or anger.

I'm not sure what this year will bring but I can be sure of at least a few storms along the way.

When the storm comes, what will you be doing?

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“Stop dragging the chair Jake!!”

He's been doing this on a  regular basis for over a year and it’s begun to feel like a battle of wills.  Each time we see it happen,  my wife and I  respond the same way. – we yell at him to stop and feel frustrated that he is not learning this lesson. 

As I reflect on this recurring scene, I realized that I’ve been looking at this situation in the wrong way. I interpret my son's repeat offense as insubordination when, in fact, his behavior continues, most likely, because he is so focused on achieving his goals.

The reason he drags the chair to the counter is because the charger for the iPad is on the counter. He wants to sit next to the counter so he can continue to play while the iPad is charging. That is his sole focus.

My goal is to prevent the floor from scuffing while the chair gets dragged across it. When I yell for my son to stop, I am singularly focused on achieving my goal and inadvertently become an obstacle to his achieving his goal. Similarly, when he drags the chair across the room, he is just focused on his achieving his goal and inadvertently becomes an obstacle to what I want. We each get into each other’s way without even knowing it. 

For me, the deeper insight comes from recognizing just how quickly and repeatedly I keep exerting my power over him to get what I want at the expense of what he wants. I justify this behavior by reminding myself that I am the adult and he is the 6-year old child. I go even further by telling myself that I’m teaching my son discipline and keeping him in line. Instead, if I took a few minutes to think about what he wanted, I could have made a structural change that allowed us each to achieve our goals. If I move the charger to the living room next to our couch, my son can sit there and play whenever he needs to charge his iPad.

Inadvertently, getting in each other's way happens all the time - at work, in school, during social gatherings. The next time you feel slighted or feel someone is repeatedly doing something you don’t want them to do, figure out why they are doing it that way. If you pay attention to the other person’s goal, you might find a way to both get what you want.

Remember, more often than not, it’s nothing personal. You just happen to be in their way.   

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Conscious Business: How to Build Value Through Values

• Published: October 2013
• ISBN-10: 1622032020
• EP Rating: 5 out of 5 (must read)

EP Main Takeaway: The larger purpose of business or any competitve activity is not to gain material wealth or success "but to serve as a theater for self-knowledge, self-actualization, and self-transcendence." Business happens when two parties can exchange goods and services where both parties are better off. To succeed, you want to continuously enhance your ability to serve others while "taking a stand for your values and interacting with others authentically, constructively, and impeccably."

"Self-actualization is best supported through expressions of responsibility, autonomy, and essential integrity: a commitment to a meaningful purpose that goes beyond the immediate gratification of selfish desires and embraces others in service... main task of a conscious business is to help people succeed (accomplish their mission) while they develop healthy relationships (belong to a community) and experience an unconditional sense of peace, happiness, and growth (actualize and transcend the self)."

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Trillion Dollar Coach: The Leadership Playbook of Silicon Valley's Bill Campbell

• Published: April 2019
• ISBN-10: 0062839268
• EP Rating: 4 out of 5 (worth picking up)

EP Main Takeaway: "Your title makes you a manager. Your people make you a leader." To be effective, truly care about helping your people be successful. Show up, work hard, and have an impact every day. Building a healthy community is key to engaging your employees but individual success and ambition, although necessary, can be at odds with community-building efforts. Always keep learning. "If you've been blessed, be a blessing."

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